Lauren over at Shooting Star Mag asked me recently to help her spread the word about the recently released movie, Ask Me Anything. The movie was written and directed by Allison Burnett, who wrote the novel it was based on, Undiscovered Gyrl. Now, I have to say that I haven’t read the book or seen the movie, so I can’t really say much about either, except to say that I’m intrigued (and I love Britt Robertson), so I’ll definitely be checking them out. But the discussion post idea that’s inspired by the movie sounded like a good one, so I thought I’d go ahead and write one.
In the movie, the main character is a blogger, and she apparently shares quite a few details about her life on her blog. So the question is, how much do you share on your blog? Do you use a pseudonym? Do you post pictures? Do you have rules about what you will and won’t share?
This topic is interesting because there are lots of scary stories out there (like authors who stalk negative reviewers). I have to confess that I probably don’t do as much as I should to hide my identity. It hasn’t been a huge concern for me, but I don’t give out really personal details like the town I live in or anything like that. I have shared pictures on my blog, and use my picture in my About Me section. To help a bit with privacy, I did create Avatars for my kids for when they actually post their own reviews on my other (not very active) blog, Best Kids Reads. These were done by dorobi on Fiverr.com.
As far as how much I share on my blog, this is actually a bit more complicated. I really enjoy reading blogs where people talk about books and how they relate to their own life experiences. I love this personal perspective, and it makes me feel like I get to know the blogger a lot better. One blogger who I think does an amazing job with this is Jamie from The Perpetual Page Turner. One of the reasons that I think Jamie has so many dedicated followers is because everyone feels like they know her.
I’m a pretty open person, so I actually don’t mind talking about my life experiences – the good, the bad and the ugly (not that I’d go into incredible detail on those things, but I generally don’t mind talking about them). I had this idea about a year ago for a feature called My Bookworthy Life where I would compare experiences in my YA life to books and talk about what aspects were “bookworthy” – meaning they followed the general tropes of fiction. I also planned to talk occasionally about where I think a lot of books get things wrong (and maybe plant unfortunate ideas in the heads of the young adults who read them).
Only problem is, I wrote the very first post and my husband hated it because it didn’t put everything about how we met as teenagers in a very good light (because, in my efforts to compare it to a particular bookish trope, I focused on one aspect that I probably shouldn’t have). I adore my husband (seriously – see my quote from Landline for one perfect description of why I love my husband so much), and I felt absolutely horrible that I’d upset him, obviously. I pulled the post down. Turns out, my husband is actually pretty uncomfortable with anything about our real lives going up on a webpage. He doesn’t like the idea of strangers seeing things about our lives. In fact, he recently joined Twitter (mostly for work) and he says he just can’t see posting anything about his life – what he’s doing, where he’s eating – even things things just feel weirdly personal for him to post out to the world. (In fact, I’d better have him read this post before I put it up to make sure that I’m not already getting too personal!).
Obviously, my husband is much more important to me than my blog (well, duh!) – so, I don’t share much about my personal life here. I still think maybe someday I’ll try the My Bookworthy Life feature again (and just not talk about anything that has to do with my husband or my family?), but I’m not sure.
How about you? Do you use your real life identity on your blog, or do you have a pseudonym (if you don’t mind saying, of course). Do you share details about your life on your blog? I want to know!