Watching Bloggers Come and Go. Let’s Discuss!

March 24, 2017 Let's Discuss 63

So, now that my blog has been around for four years, I’ve noticed something—a lot of blogs (and bloggers) have disappeared over these four years. I know it’s the natural progression of things—people move on to new hobbies, new stages of life, new life goals, and blogging gets pushed the side—but it still somehow surprises me when I go through my Bloglovin’ or my Twitter and see so many blogs that have been inactive for months. Sometimes the blogger has posted a goodbye message and sometimes the blog has just sort of faded away … forgotten.

Every once in awhile I’ll run across a blogger name that brings back memories and I’ll think, “Hey, I haven’t seen so-and-so around in awhile. I should go check out what’s happening with them.” It makes me a little bit sad when I find that their blog is dusty and abandoned (which, I guess explained why I hadn’t seen them around or noticed any new posts from them in a while).

I was actually in the midst of writing a different post about the early years of my blog when I started seeing some old familiar commenters. For the heck of it, I checked some of them out, and the results were a bit disheartening (LOTS of the bloggers I checked into were gone).

But, I did find that some of these bloggers are still out there, even if I’ve lost touch. I decided to take a look at their blogs and see if they still appeal to me (they read similar books or post discussions). I made a list of some that I want to try to reconnect with a bit. Who knows if this will build any lasting relationships, but I think it will be fun to at least check these blogs out!

So, here are some of the bloggers who commented on my blog in my first three months of blogging:

(I chose that amount of time randomly—it was just a convenient cut-off point)

Some of my earliest commenters who are still blogging, but I’ve lost touch with them:

I’ve made a pact with myself to check out these blogs again. They supported me when I was just a baby blogger!!

Some of my earliest commenters who I’m still at least marginally in touch with (via at least occasional comments—some of these bloggers I still interact with more than others):

I’m going to try to reconnect with some of these bloggers a bit more again!

And then there’s ONE blogger who was one of my very earliest commenters and who I still interact with often. Plus, I’ve met her in real life! She deserves some special recognition, right?

 Jessica @ a GREAT read

Wait! One more – Kim @ Caffeinated Book Reviewer also commented on my blog in it’s first three months as well, and I can be found on her blog often—at the very least, every Sunday for the Sunday Post (and she still always comments back!).

 

Have you ever looked back at some of your first commenters to see which bloggers are still around? Are you still in contact with some of your earliest supporters? I want to know!

 

 

63 Responses to “Watching Bloggers Come and Go. Let’s Discuss!”

  1. Kristen @ Metaphors and Moonlight

    Even in my year and a half of blogging, I’ve seen blogs come and go, and some of them I really liked (both the blog and the blogger) :-/ But it does happen. I’m not even sure who my earliest commenters were except for one. The beginning of my blogging is kind of a haze to me for some reason. I don’t remember how I started meeting other bloggers even. But you do have me kind of curious to check who my earliest commenters were now!

  2. Lory

    I should do this! I know that one of my very earliest commenters and supporters who really encouraged me to keep going in the beginning suddenly stopped blogging and I was always sad not to know why. I miss her!

    Lory recently posted: Three from Furrowed Middlebrow
  3. Michelle @ Pink Polka Dot Books

    I’m glad to see Nikki from There Were Books Involved is back at it!! I wasn’t sure if she would continue blogging or not. I always get sad when people I follow quit blogging. Change in general is hard for me though. I get that people’s lives change and their hobbies and free-time availability change– but 🙁

    Michelle @ Pink Polka Dot Books recently posted: YA Dystopian Books-- Where Are They?
  4. Laura

    It’s coming up for nearly 3 years since I started blogging, and now I think back, there are a fair few people who I connected with in the beginning hat I haven’t heard from in ages! I’ll have to go back to some of my earlier posts too, to see if any of them are still blogging!
    I know what you mean though – there’s something kind of sad about an abandoned blog, especially one that you used to really enjoy reading.

  5. kimbacaffeinate

    Yes, I am approaching my 6 year anniversary and so many who first helped me have moved on. It does happen just like you said, I will suddenly think, boy I haven’t heard from so-in-so in a while, and will search out their blog. You see signs before with some. For example, they begin taking blogger breaks, they talk about quitting but others -poof they are just gone.

    kimbacaffeinate recently posted: Dangerous Games by Tess Diamond
    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      I was excited to see your name as one of my first commenters! I wasn’t all that surprised, though—you have always been one of the most supportive bloggers out there, and I’m not surprised that you came out and visited me when I was just a baby blog. 🙂 Thanks for all you do for the blogging community!

  6. Aj @ Read All The Things!

    I’ve been blogging for 3 years, and I’ve seen a lot of bloggers come and go. It’s strange when someone just vanishes with no warning. That seems to happen a lot. I met most of my blog’s early followers on Goodreads or through Feature & Follow Friday. I still talk to several of them.

    Aj @ Read All The Things! recently posted: Review: The Wave – Morton Rhue
    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      I agree that it seems strangest when a blog suddenly goes dark with no warning. Sometimes you can see that a blogger is posting less and less, but still …. For some reason, I always like to read people’s goodbye posts when they have them. Sometimes they’re a bit sad or regretful, and sometimes the blogger is happy and excited about a new chapter in their life. It’s really interesting to me to see why people stop blogging.

  7. Evelina

    This is a very nice post, I wouldn’t have thought of the idea 🙂 but that’s probably because my blog is somewhere around half a year old only! Although now that I think about it, it feels like a lot, cause I feel like I JUST started blogging… so for now, I guess my commenters come and go anyway. But I’ve noticed one funny thing. Non-bloggers almost never comment! How is that? Why do readers-lurkers never interact? It’s so strange. I know they visit, cause stats, but even my Goodreads friends would rather come back to the GR review and comment there. Such a weird psychological thing, isn’t it? Have you noticed this as well?

    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      I have two or three non-blogging readers who comment relatively often, but that’s it. I always love to see them—somehow it seems extra exciting to get comments from someone who is a reader, not a blogger. I can’t exactly say why.

      It does depend on the post as well—my most popular post of ever is a Spoiler-Filled Discussion of Three Dark Crowns, and it has quite a few comments from non-bloggers!

      • Evelina

        I think maybe it’s exciting because they’re not actually from the blogger circle where we have a… certain culture, I guess?

        I have also had a few non-blogger commenters, but they were one-time ones, and ironically, all from China 😀 probably because my most visited post by SEO results happens to be for a Chinese author (not sure why that one, but it was one of my first posts so maybe that’s that. All the spam still comes through that one)

  8. Emma

    What a great way to reconnect with bloggers. I have noticed people who comment on my blog has changed but so has the blogs I follow most regularly as I find new ones and also ones that tend to focus on the genres I like,

    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      You make a good point—when I first started blogging, I didn’t really have a clear style and I participated in things like Feature & Follow Friday where book bloggers of all different genres participated. Nowadays, I mostly follow (closely) blogs that are similar to mine since they have books I’m interested in. Bloggers who post lots of great discussions are an exception (especially if they are part of the Discussion Challenge—I read ALL of those posts) because even if we don’t read the same types of books, I still love to see what they have to say about books in general.

  9. Brittany

    I love and frequent some of the blogs you listed! And I totally understand where you’re coming from. My blog has been around for a little less than yours (around 3.5 years) and I can definitely think of some of my earlier blogging friends, many of whom don’t blog anymore. I sometimes still check their abandoned blogs, and it’s kind of sad. Love this post <3

    Brittany @ Brittany’s Book Rambles

    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      Sometimes you just have to peek to see if they’ve come back! I unfollow people on Twitter when they haven’t been active in months, but there are a few old friends that I just can’t bring myself to delete. I need to be able to check in on them from time to time. 🙂

  10. Jessica @ a GREAT read

    Awww!! Thank you! <3

    I sometimes go through my blogger roll on the side on my dashboard page and notice all the blogs I follow. I've tried cleaning it up but have found that some blogs are just gone as well and I can't even clear them out. I feel like I've been in this game for so long, 8 years this past January, and in those early days I basically followed anyone who followed my little blog! Lol!

    I've noticed when people quit it's because of life things, like you said. Losing interest, being too overwhelmed with blogging that it's feeling like a second job for them. Perhaps my small stack of review books that always sadden me, yet never kept me from stopping is what caused them to stop. Maybe it all became too much and it was tiresome. I feel like things are crazy if I ever have 3 or more review books in a stack! LOL! But I enjoy reading too much to ever quite blogging, because in a way, blogging is my reading journal…minus spoilers of course! Lol!

    I follow most of the same blogs as I did in the early days. I've been noticing that not all of them are still blogging as frequently, or they've added more reviewers to their blog, which is great, but I don't see that initial person too much anymore. Reading tastes have changed for some, yet I still find i visit most of the same blogs!

    For the most part, I haven't really been cleaning up my blog list anymore. I guess because it's hard to say goodbye, even if they've already said it.

  11. Sam

    This is wonderful post. What a nice way to thank and reach out to some of your earliest supporters. Although I am new to my blog, WLABB started almost 4 years ago, and it’s due to life changes that I was asked to contribute. I love talking about books, and am thankful that I am given this outlet, as I have no reader friends IRL *sad face*.

  12. Shannon @ It Starts at Midnight

    I LOVE that you created a positive spin on this, because tbh, it just makes me sad most of the time hahah. Some of the first people who commented on my blog are not around anymore, which is sad. One or two are but I lost touch with. BUT one of the first people I connected with is Holly, and we are obviously still very close, so that is nice! I know I need to remove a few inactive blogs from my blog roll but.. it is HARD. The worst though is finding out that a blogger passed away, like with Elizabeth. That absolutely broke my heart. It’s bad enough when people just move on but… that was a gut punch for sure.

    Shannon @ It Starts at Midnight recently posted: Inarticulate Book Musings (2)
    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      Oh my gosh, I was thinking about Elizabeth a lot when I wrote this post. I actually didn’t know that she’d passed away for sure—I assumed, but I could never find confirmation anywhere. She was so fantastic and I miss her! I have never had the heart to take her out of my Bloglovin’ or Twitter lists. 🙁

  13. Geybie's Book Blog

    Hi, I’m a new blogger, having just blogged a little more than three months. I do hope I can survive at least one year. hehe (in my dream I would be a book blogger forever, though)
    I’m very lucky to have met and interacted almost daily with some awesome book bloggers. They have encouraged me to keep blogging and keep it fun so I won’t get burned out. I think having fellow bloggers that I can talk to every day is very important.

    Btw, I like this post. I love reading discussions related to book bloggers. 😀

  14. Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews

    You are so right, Nicole! Some of those bloggers I got to know early on are gone. And some I really enjoyed interacting with disappeared suddenly, and I had to use some very tricky google skills to find them just to check that they were OK.
    I understand why and how this happens, and I have thought back to other hobbies I have had in the past, and how I don’t have those anymore. Books and reading has always been a part of my life, even with some breaks when my children were very young 🙂
    I think sometimes, life also gets really busy, so even with my blog still there, it’s hard to find the time to visit all the great bloggers I’d love to interact with.
    I love some of your early commenters, and FF Friday was my way of introducing myself to the community way back when, too. Almost five years since I started, so there have been many bloggers showing up and disappearing again, sadly.

    Lexxie @ (un)Conventional Bookviews recently posted: Thirsty Thursday and Hungry Hearts #108 – On Second Thought
    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      Yeah, sometimes I’ve googled people to try and figure out where they disappeared to. It’s sad when the people you used to talk to a lot fade away, but I love that the blogosphere is such a vibrant place and there are always new friends to make as well!

  15. Becky @ A Fool's Ingenuity

    It is sad thinking on the bloggers who have moved on from it since I first started blogging. I can’t say I’ve gone back to see what has happened with my early commenters. There are a couple I still try to visit but I’ve always been a little blog so I’ve mostly managed to stay in touch with those bloggers who are still around. It’s hard, though finding the time to keep track of everyone I may have to investigate who supported me when I first started and I was scared. I definitely find bloggers who haven’t posted a goodbye post the saddest I don’t know what’s happening with them but then it feels like there might be hope for them to come back.

    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      Yes, those are the strangest cases—where a person just stops blogging abruptly. Of course, I have a second blog that I used to keep up with (called Best Kids’ Reads) that I pretty much stopped posting on. I guess people who only knew me from that blog might think I disappeared. (I never really thought about it before!) So, you just never know what happens with people. 🙂

  16. Terri M., the Director

    Kim’s blog is one of the first blogs I stumbled upon when I started. I often stop by and check out her Sunday Posts as I did them frequently and then went out on my own with Scenic Sundays. 🙂

    I love my connection with Julie and Lynn over at Chapter Break. We started commenting on each other’s blogs and then did a guest post exchange. Then a crazy comment about only reading books we own for one year resulted in the #ShelfLove Challenge. It’s been great fun!

  17. vvb

    Nice post. Makes me want to go back and revisit some of my early commenters. But before I do, I noticed that there are some bloggers who only commented during giveaway offers. And, these people continue to do so only if there is an offer. I have done less offers in the past couple years. So, am surprised when I see them appear again.

    • Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addiction

      I have some people who only come by for giveaways as well. It doesn’t bother me—but I agree that it’s interesting when you see their name pop up again and you think, “Oh, I guess they didn’t actually go away after all!” Maybe some of those people are lurkers—they might be checking out your posts but just not commenting unless there’s a giveaway. You never know!

  18. Michelle

    I’ve seen a lot that have just kind of disappeared (my own original blog included). But I’ve also seen some of the bloggers who were baby bloggers at the same time as me take off and flourish, and that’s AWESOME to see! My own current blog is new enough that revisiting early commenters probably isn’t a particularly interesting exercise. But maybe I’ll celebrate FaerieFits’ year mark by doing a shout-out / follow-up to some of those first folks I started interacting with on this one 🙂

  19. Bookworm Brandee

    It’s kinda crazy to think about so many having gone “dark”, Nicole. I know of one right off the top of my head who commented on my blog early in the game but then left blogging…but she explained she was doing it and why. I think I’ll try to find some time to see who all I’ve lost contact with and whether or not they’re still around. It might be fun to try to reconnect or to at least see how they’ve evolved if they’re still blogging. 🙂 Great post!

    Bookworm Brandee recently posted: Brandee's Bookish Babble #31 ~ Goodreads & Comments
  20. Cilla

    I was going to say that I’m still a baby blogger and haven’t known anyone long enough, but now that I think about it, there are a couple of names that I no longer see around the blogosphere. It’s sad when bloggers drop off or go MIA, but I suppose it makes sense – just with any other hobby, people might move on. Anyway, lovely post, Nicole!

  21. Olivia Roach

    A little while ago I did the same exact thing. I’ve been blogging for quite a while now and it is so sad to see people come and go… but sometimes they do come back as well. 🙂 I think the hardest disappearance for me was a book blogger who only really read mysteries. She discovered my blog and for years there wasn’t a single post of hers, or a single post of mine, that we hadn’t commented on or discussed together. But a few months ago she just disappeared and I have no idea what happened or if she simply lost interest in blogging. It was quite sad, because I had just started to read more mystery *per her recommendation* and she was starting to explore YA…

    Olivia Roach recently posted: Strawberry, Orange & Banana Smoothie [Recipe]
  22. Ksenia @ Something Delicate

    Please write a follow-up post, I’m very curious if you reconnect with any of these bloggers. I’ve been blogging for about 3 years and I’ve seen blogs come and go too. It makes me sad when a blogs I follow disappear. But I guess its life. I just wish all of them post a good-bye post; it’s such a strange feeling to visit a blog and see that it was abandoned. Though, most of my bookish friends are still out there posting reviews, discussions and other stuff.
    PS. I totally agree with Evelina’s remark about non-bloggers. They rarely comment.

    Ksenia @ Something Delicate recently posted: Do you feel hype pressure?
  23. Karen Blue

    This is such a fun idea to reconnect to the bloggers who first commented on your blog. What fun to see some are still writing away and reconnect with them!

    I have been so sad to not be blogging regularly. I *think* I just figured out how to squeeze a few hours into my crazy schedule so I can get back to my blog. Blogging is hard, as we all know. I sure do have a lot more respect for the ones that just disappeared. Life can totally get in the way.

    Fun post!

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